Addendum to Stressful Tuesday

We had a meeting with the school psychologist, special education resource teacher, social worker and mom on Friday afternoon to discuss that little guys psycho-educational evaluation. We know that he is so severely ADHD that he can't function, but some things came up in his evaluation that we were not expecting and are terrifying. We basically had to tell mom that it is time to medicate and get her son in counseling, but we aren't sure if she actually heard any of it.

According to the evaluation this little guy has elevated levels of: depression, anxiety, violence potential, helplessness, hopelessness and worthlessness. These levels are as elevated as they can be according to the rating scale that I filled out about him. The scariest part of all of this is that normally those scores don't come out unless the kid is rating themselves. So that fact that he is projecting these things for others to see is shocking. He is 9 and hates himself and feels that no one in his life loves him because he can't control himself (those are his words to me). We are begging mom to get him some help but we are 90% sure she will do nothing. She never sees him so she doesn't realize what he is going through. We are out of options to help him at school, now it's all up to her.

My next step is to follow up with child protective services and see if it's neglect or something if she doesn't help him. I've got to believe that with psychological evidence of depression and everything else that some higher power than mom can help him.

Hearing of the violence potential really struck me considering he just brought a knife to school. I did not see him as a threat originally. I knew he had the potential, but I just figured it would come later in life if he was not helped. Essentially, I have no idea what to do for this poor child. I feel so horrible that he feels this way at the age of 9 and I just pray that his mother will see that he is in serious need of intensive help. She cried during the meeting when we all said that we really like him and know that he has huge potential if he gets some help. Hopefully that means that she listened.